Keep Calm and Believe

 

 

 

  

Everyone has someone who they believe in and look up too. I personally have a lot of people I believe in. The point is not about who you can believe in, but if you can believe in your-self. Believing is defined as an “Accept (something) as true; feel sure of the truth of.”

Many people say they believe in God for an example, but many don't know if they really believe in him or they just they are so that they will go to heaven and not hell. Most beliefs have to do with a religion or in someone; but that's not what believing in yourself is. It's more about see what you want and taking an act on how you feel about it and if that feeling is strong or not.

Having the right mind set is the first thing it takes to start believing. If you are a very negative person, it’s not that easy. For me I really have to convince myself that I can do something. I find something that can be so easy, hard. One reason why this is hard for some people might have to so with trust, not being positive and feeling less of a person. This effects a lot of the person’s performances inside and outside of school and relationships. One thing that O have struggled with is being a negative person towards myself. It has been one of those weakness that has hurt me mentally and it's not easy to just change it and make it better. It takes a lot to believe in yourself, it might for some people like me but not for most people.  

Believing in your values also plays a big role in believing in yourself. If you have strong values than you’re most likely to feel for strong about what you value and how you feel. For some people that haven’t felt that value means a lot to them, they are more likely to go along or not speak for themselves. I’m not trying to say that all people that have strong values will have a greater change of believing in themselves, because even people with strong values have a hard time believing. Psychologytoday.com say that most people are more likely to have a high change of believing in themselves that have strong values.

 

            Believing in yourself is more than just tell yourself something. That may be one of the process, but it’s not always effective. Having a good mindset and knowing who you are also helps you. Believing is more of a mental thing. If you believe in something it’s just another way to convince yourself of how strongly you feel about something.        

Keep Calm and hug Everyone

Hugs are warm and bring joy to everyone. They lighten up your day and make you happy. You're even happier when that special person gives you a hug and tight bear hug. The feeling you feel, like your heart is fluttering. I have to say that’s one of the best feelings you can get. I think we all need to gives more hugs in our life. They have that feeling of warmth, belonging and volubility. 

Another form of saying Hi, I miss you so much, I'm here for you, are giving hugs. They mean so much in different situations. I once didn't really know why people give out hugs. I thought it was just something you do, just to do it. But there was this once point that qi saw a hug is more than that. It's a way that you can communicate with out words.Mindbodygreen.com gives 10 reasons that you should give hugs and one is because “Hugs are so much like meditation and laughter. They teach us to let go and be present in the moment. They encourage us to flow with the energy of life. Hugs get you out of your circular thinking patterns and connect you with your heart and your feelings and your breath."

If you thing about it when you get a hug you feel better. It’s like you get happier or energy was given to you. When I get a hug from one of my girlfriends they are soft and very smooth. It's different when you get a hug from a guy. They are more meaningful if you know what I mean. They hug you more tightly and it's like you don't want to let go of them. I love hugs from guys. They are the best kind of hugs other than your best friend that you have not seen in a long time.

 Hugs sometimes remind me of good times and being happy. We all need a hug sometimes just to have that feeling. It does not have to be a long or from someone special, it can just be from a random person. A hug makes your day a little bit happier no matters who's from. If we all give hugs every day to someone new, think how it would change your day and that person’s day. You would have made a new friend and made your day a little bit better. I think that we all need to start changing our mind set of who we are and others.

I wrote this blog because I got a hug not too long ago and it had an impact on me because I felt better about myself that day. My message to you is that go out and give as much hugs as you can. You only live once and if you don’t start changing now you never will!

Keep Calm and Love our Best Friends

   

We have friends that we call our best friends. We tell them everything from the boys we like, our secrets and much more. They are people that we enjoy being with and having a good time with. The more we are with them the more they rub off on us. Every moment with them in your eyes are better when it's shared with them. They give you that since of belonging. That you are accepted in the friendship. It's the best feeling in the world I know! It makes you feel like you are unstoppable. You love them like family and keep them close no matter what which is what I love about my best friends.

For me I have lots of friends. Not saying that I'm popular, but I just happen to know a lot of people. One of my best friends, I like having long talks with about life, boy's, and almost anything, I call her a good listener. I'm one of those people who see people for what they are good at. I really enjoy long talk with her because she is always there to listen and give me feedback on situations I'm in. After a good long talk I feel like I've been cure and she is like my therapist. We all have a friend like this that is always wanting to talk about how you have been or what’s new in life.

Everyone needs someone to share their secrets with. That's why we have friends. Listening is like their secret to us and is as important as talking things out. We understand each other better than a therapist and are way cheaper than one. The make us laugh and are there to comfort us though our sad time. There is always a shoulder to cry on not matter what. Most of my friends have the same mind set as me. Like they say great minds think alike

When it comes to “bonding" your friends are the meaning of it. No matter how many fights that has happen and disagreements that have happen you always find you’re self-forgiving them or you forgiving them. They are the other half of you. And we all still have slumber parties. It's a way to catch up if you guys don't have time to hangout. It's always easy to have fun with your best friends, even when you don't think about. They are your biggest influences and you are theirs.

Keep Calm and Listen to Music

Music makes everyone happy, it's another form of commutation for some and it's a way we can all express our self.  I love almost any kind of music except Country because it’s.... country. Music has really changed since the 1900's due to the change in cultures and values. Music today is way more out there and less covered up than back then. I'm not here is give you a history lesson on music but, I want to share how I feel towards today’s generation perception of music.  

I want to start off by saying, " Music is an art that can't be judged by who is listening or sing it." I see music as a thing that you can't judge. It's a way to express your feelings but what you are thinking. I understand that some people may not like all music (like me not liking country) but, I still try not to judge. I can't say I have not judge someone music because of the tone or the person that sang it. We all have made this judgment about songs we don't like and I think that we need to stop overlooking it.

 

           The time and effort it takes to make a song, even a whole album. We also fans that do listen to music might not understand what it takes. From my point of view it must be hard to be a musician. They all put in hard work for use to like their songs and we are the same people that bash them about a song that they work hard on. Today’s musicians are very diverse. What I mean by diverse is musicians are very much different but still have a quality’s that make them the same depending on the style or genre.

            Music is something that makes everyone happy and some shape or form. It brings out a better side of you and plays with your emotions sometime. When I listen to music it gives me a since of joy deepening on what song I’m listing to. To be honest I have a very large and wide range of music I like.  I listen to classical, RMB, hip-hop, rock, pop, soul etc. I find music to be very heart and mind driven. I think that when you know that your heart and mind are one you have a since of togetherness. Music is something that is soulful and soothes to all so keep clam and listen to it!

Feelings

Its starts off with a feeling you may have for someone even if you don't want to tell your-self you do. You will always bring them up and smile when you say their name. Even if you don't see them every day you make sure to call or text then because you know that will make you feel closer to them. I know we have all had or will have feeling for someone that we can't explain even if you know they are not the right person you need or want.

I'm not big on love or relationships and I don't think I will get married because I have made that decision. I know that that might not happen in the future and my decision might change but as for right now, it’s not going to. That's just a side note, but I have to say that I have had feeling for someone before and right now. Like I said I don't do relationships and I'm not a big fan, but I have to say that if you have never been in a relationship you should try one just to see how you are act towards the opposite sex.

When I was in my first relationship it was more like a friendship than a relationship. I think that everyone should have one relationship like that. It helps you know the different between a relationship and a friendly relationship.  We have all had a friend that has had told us about their crazy and unhealthy relationships, but that not how all relationships are like.

Being in a relationship takes more than it looks. Aside from the physical contact between you and your partner, there should be a more emotional level between you two not a physical one. I know that most of my friends have a physical relationship and not an emotional one, when they are in a relationship that's why it usually ends badly. I know for a fact most people only get into a relationship just for looks and lust. I know because I did it with my first relationship. It ended well but that was because we were really good friends. That's not always the case though.

I have had feeling for someone that I've been talking to for a year now and we are still not in a relationship because of the respect that the person holds for me and the emotional understanding of my feelings, he is letting me take as much time as I need until I’m ready to be in a committed relationship. I'm not trying to bouts about how my so call relationship states is great, but that you and your partner should have respect for each other space and understanding what each of you want. I know that sounds easy, but in reality it takes a lot of time and understanding.

I know we all have feelings for someone near and far, but if there is not understanding and respect in the relationship then the feelings are not worth anything to you or the person you are in a relationship with. I hope you all enjoyed and learned something from this blog post. I really wanted to open up and write something that we all have once over come in our life and move on and find someone new or better for us.

P.S. Watch Girl Code and Guy Code on MTV it talks about a lot of what we go through in our everyday life.

Spiders

 

 

Spiders are not what you call your cup of tie on an everyday bases. They are sneaky, ugly and overall scary looking. If you are like me, I'm terrified of them. I can't stand being in the same room as them or even look at them. I know there are some people who think that spiders are wonderful craters but let’s be honest, I'm not one to say that I'm a big fan of spiders, because of all the ones I'm killed in my life time.

One thing I can't stand about spiders is the way they are always in your space and you can't see them until they sneak up on you. This situations has happen to me more than ounces in my life. I know I'm not he only one that doesn't like spiders but I just don't like when they are in places where you don't need them to be. I'm a clean freak, and the one thing I can't stand is finding a spider in my shower! I mean it's ok if they are on the ceiling , because they are somewhat far away from me, but when they are anywhere in my shower it makes me very angry. I mean why the shower! It’s the one place you feel at ease with your-self and if you have a spider watching you or crawling down the walls of the shower, it just makes everything more awkward and gross.

Other place that I dislike finding them is in my bed! Like really thought, being in the bathroom and finding them there is one thing but your bed is a way different story. Your bed is like a secret ground or a place you can relax. It is not a place to have a spider trying to sleep with you or crawl up your legs. I mean they have their own place to live by that I mean outside were all the other animals are supposed to be, not in our houses.

I know that spiders are like any other animal and are scared of us more than we are of them, but to be honest I think most spiders know what they are doing when they scare you. To me I know that most of them will look at you, and they know what’s coming for them that’s why they start running before you can even give them a second look to see where they were at. I mean I just get creped out about talking about them. In the end I know I can’t do anything about them being in my space because they know better but still they should learn to say away!

Ten Times the Fun

 

We all like having fun the good the bad and the overall crazy. In all the days you live you have some kind of fun no matter how many bad days you have. Having fun does not take much, but having a positive view towards something. One way I have fun is by laughing. It comes easy to me so I do it more to make me feel better. Having fun in your life will make things much easier and you will be happier about your-self. 

 When it comes to fun some people think of it as playing a game or joking around. That's not what all fun is. You can find having fun in your everyday life by doing the little things that makes you happy or smile. Like I said earlier, I like to laugh because it's a since of having fun and you have a feeling of happiness. Psychologytoday tells us that laughter is the best way to a healthy and happy life style.
Fun does not always have to be something bad or sexual it can just be doing a hobby or your favorite activity that puts a smile on your face. An activity that I enjoy other than laughing is drawing. I have fun drawing because it comes easy to me and makes me feel happy about myself. It also helps me feel more accomplished and want to achieve more. There is always something you can find out about your-self and have fun doing it.

Everyone wants to have ten times the fun when they are out with friends or anything activity they are doing or playing. I know this for a fact! I'm a very loud person and like having a good time with my friends and family. I came up with the saying ten times the fun as a guide to help you have fun or a good time in your everyday life.
I use this technique every day to help me be in a better and happier state of being. The first thing you do is to find 10 things that you can change in your day to make it better and more fun if you find it boring. For instants, I have to go to school every day and I try to make the best of it so that I don't get bored. This works for any kind of job or work place you may work in. It’s easy and as you do it more often it gets easier and more fun. I hope you try this and see how it may go for you.